Almost all children, parents and teachers are familiar with the characters Kaira and Ishaan from the highly praised movies “Dear Zindagi” and “Taare Zameen Par” respectively. But the question arises that had we learnt something from these wonderfully picturised movies on Parenting, Discipline and Children? Our children add that extra sunshine to our lives. They need a lot of tender care and warmth from us. As they grow, each and every parent and teacher also grow with them and learn a lot.
Discipline is part and parcel of every student’s life. Thus, it become important to inculcate children with values required at every round of life. Children have great observation and learning powers. Thus, if parents or teachers try to inculcate discipline forcefully then children revert back aggressively. Scolding them or acting rude towards their wish list may result in devastating results. Our rudeness make children fearful, aggressive and under confident. They start hiding their emotions and become inexpressive and introvert. Therefore to avoid such conditions, children should be shown love and care. Then parents and teachers naturally take a lead over their children. They themselves start imbibing discipline as a much needed moral value. Connectivity with children is crucial as only then they feel to be an important part of family and become confident to share their feelings.
Parents and teachers should themselves do things that they want from their children. One must not forget to appreciate their children on their positive sides. It boosts up them more and creates a sense of right and wrong doing. The key to teach children discipline is staying calm and making them believe on their capabilities and skills. When calmness is there, trust is developed, discipline is followed, skills are enhanced, path is defined, goals are set and finally success is reached by a child.
Is your child good at decision making?
Priyanka Negi13 Apr 20174
Many experts have suggested that decision making is the best lesson which a parent can teach their children. The process of making decisions not only enhance a child’s capacity to explore the world but it works as a path of success for them.
It is always good to teach them making a right and sensible decisions but it does not mean that the children should not be allowed to make poor decisions. In fact, making poor decisions helps the child to learn how to make better ones for coming future.
According to the child experts, decision making is a skill through which children can become very good at making bad decisions. This situation usually occurs when parents don’t hold them responsible for their poor decisions. However, parents instead, bail them out of the trouble their bad decision brings.
In a study, experts found that decision-making is a complex process that takes years to master. Additionally, the process begins with making a child understand about decision-making. Children are prominent in making sudden judgments and acting on them without thinking.
However, parents can teach them to think before acting on certain issues. The second stem is making children understand what motivates their decisions. One problem is that children are often faced with contradictory motivations. They may know that doing something is unintelligent, but they may feel peer pressure to do it anyway.
It is been found that if decisions come down to doing what is right or what is wrong, the majority of children will almost always choose popularity. The experts have suggested that the children should ask themselves about the consequences of their actions.
Parents can also shape their children’s decision-making process via coaching them. Additionally, the parents can also make their children understand the consequences of good and bad decisions that can help their children to live a peaceful life.
Forgiveness- A Fundamental Facet
Shatrujit Chauhan04 Apr 20177
“No person is so deep in sin, so ingrained in a wicked lifestyle, or so steeped in evil that he or she cannot be saved.”
When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge. But you always have the choice to embrace forgiveness and move on wearing a smile.
Nearly everyone gets hurt by the actions or words of other people. Perhaps your mentor criticized your intellect, your colleague sabotaged a project or you fall prey to someone’s greed. These wounds can leave you with imperishable feelings of anger, bitterness or even vengeance.
But if you don't practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays the most. A very popular saying goes “An eye for an eye will make the whole world blind”.
Thus, by embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy. Forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being, making you a more compassionate and understanding individual.
People often link forgiveness with reconciliation but forgiveness does not always include settlement or even interaction with the ones who have hurt you. Forgiveness is a conscious and deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment towards a person regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness or not.
The benefits of being a forgiver are perhaps intangible, and the perks incalculable. In no time, you find yourself high on self – esteem and amidst healthier relationships.
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.
Role of Leadership in Student’s Life
Bhavna Sharma18 Mar 201723
Students are a bunch of beautiful flowers who blossom with a lot of learning and training. They require mentoring at each step of their lives so that they can spread their wings and fly high in the sky. Here, leadership is one such quality which comes into play to make them understand rules of success and failure. Schools follow an amazing process to inculcate sense of leadership amongst students. It ensures continuous and comprehensive learning for students. Students are chosen to become captain of sports team, head boy/head girl, monitor of class, etc. and thus encouraging leadership skills.
Leadership plays a crucial role in life of a student. It is one of the deciding factors in formation of confidence in students which is highly required in their professional lives. Leadership is that value which makes a student best out of the rest. If children want to reach success then they should practice leadership activities. They should participate in as much activities as they can and should earn certificates. As said “All work and no play, makes Jack a dull boy”. All the time being in studies will not be able to develop leadership. Therefore, to build leading qualities, co – curricular activities and sports should become a part of every student. This is going to boost confidence and leadership skills.
Whether it is corporate, politics, sports, media, entertainment or any other industry, every field requires people of high motivation value and leadership skills. Apart from spreading influence on others, leadership is also important for self awareness, discipline and self – independence. Thus, “Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence.”
Hard Work Beats Talent
Anubha Das13 Mar 201711
People can generally be classified into two groups those who have talents and those who do not have talent to do something.
A really talented person succeeds in his work. He makes use of his abilities appropriately and achieves good grades. He is confident of doing his work. He uses his tools in the right way, even if they are not excellent.
At the same time, if a less talented person even if given excellent tools, fails to achieve good results. His talents are limited. He tries to find lame excuses for his failure to achieve good results. He blames his tools for the unfinished work he has done. He does not want to admit that he is a bad workman. He deliberately forgets the fact that his talents are limited.
This is perhaps most evident in a student who does not do well in his examinations. Instead of looking for reasons within himself, he looks outside for someone or something to blame such as a difficult question paper, a leaky pen or a wrathful examiner. Similarly a dancer who fails to perform well on a particular event attributes his poor performance to the incompetent musicians, accompanists or to the poor stage management.
While the former blames the opportunities and people around him for his failure, the latter without complaint utilizes and succeeds in life.
A Sound Mind in a Sound Body
Anubha Das10 Mar 20174
One can think of a healthy mind only in a healthy body. Both physical and mental well being are the prerequisites of great achievements in a man’s life.
Most people believe that sports lead to only physical and mental fitness. However, it has many hidden benefits as well. Sports and good education can become a way to achieve success in the life of a student. Both should be given equal priority in the schools to pursue and make the bright career of students.
Sports not only mean the physical exercise but also promote the concentration level of students helping them study better. Playing sports brings highest level of confidence and teaches discipline to students. Sports are the best ways to deal with the ups and down in the life by defining the balance between body and mind, joy and sorrow. They are the sources of recreation. They provide relief and a sense of relaxation in a life full of monotony marked by miseries, hardships and hurdles.
The standard of sports in India is far from satisfactory. So, the Government should take steps to improve this standard. Playing sports for at least an hour on daily basis should be made necessary in the schools for the welfare of the children and better future of the country.
Raise Your Voice
Anubha Das09 Feb 20179
Have you felt totally and absolutely defenceless on occasion when you understand that you can't stand up noisy about the injustice going ahead about you?
There will be numerous situations in your life when you’ll be caught in a diplomatic situation. A situation where either you can react or you’ll keep quiet. The kind of injustice that usually an individual faces are uncountable like a student having biased marking in examination, a sportsperson getting selected or not on favors and so on.
People will mistreat you if you take injustice lying down. But raised voice can help. It will make it possible for you to reach new heights, and will help others too.
When you raise your voice, you make yourself come out of the shell and individuals realize that there is somebody who won't be let down, who won't be quiet. That is the reason we trust that raising your voice is something to be thankful for. If people groups see others' perspective, and ensure that they know why there is a need to talk up,particularly against foul play.
Along these lines, never be anxious.Never be hesitant to raise voice for genuineness and truth and sympathy,against unfairness and ravenous. Since when you do as such, it makes a major change.
Never Overprotect a Child
Anubha Das11 Jan 201711
There is a thin line between protection and over protecting. Many parents do not know the difference between protecting and overprotecting.
What they think and feel is that they are doing right for their children. There are many parents who believe overprotecting is good for children while some parents may not protect their children enough. In fact, both of them are principally wrong. The only way you can protect your children is to approach the issue with caution and find a balance between two ends of the spectrum.
The most basic approach that parents can use is to teach children how to become independent. They should allow their children to do things and tasks all by themselves. They should experience the sad events of failures and sweet moments of success. They should also understand that life is full of both thorns and roses.
They should know the vital dissimilarity between achievement and breakdown, and they must know that both success and failures are parts of life. Over protection hinders normal growth among children because it does not allow them to face the truth of life.
Parents Coping with the Young Generation
Anubha Das25 Nov 20163
Why aren’t parents able to cope with their young generation? The reason is the insightful generation gap between them.
Generation gap is nothing but certain psychological & emotional gap between parents or the elder people and the younger ones. Bulging generation gap creates misunderstanding and lack of attachment between the parents & the children.The success of parenting lies in how effectively parents bridge the gap between them and their children.
Being up to date is the only way to cope up with the generation gap. When you are asked a doubt by your children, and if your answer is that you do not know, then you may be counted an outdated person of the gone age. To avoid this situation, parents should try to be current and updated with the information and technologies.
Today’s generation kids have been exposed to technology from an early age. They can easily master themselves on technology than we do. As a parent, you need to learn and educate ourselves about the latest technology update and be more tech-savvy.
Parents should monitor their interaction with technology and set rules that limit their time with it. Though, parents should not completely cut them off from technology because they should learn and explore about the latest technology update, so they don’t feel alienated from other kids.
In this way the gap can be filled and the relationship between parents and the younger generation can be abridged.
10 Ways To Be The Perfect Parent
Anirud10 Aug 20165
Tired of not being able to become a good parent?
Kids not obeying? Are not in your control?
Here are 10 basic tips which can help you out in being the perfect parent!
Set limits: A child does not know what is right or wrong in this wild, confusing and chaotic world. Imposing appropriate restrictions would help them explore the world safely.
Sense of independence: Letting the children do their own tasks like picking up plates after eating, dressing themselves, and so on would enable them to gain self esteem.
Spend time together: There should be a trust factor between you and your child, and in order for you to achieve that stage, there is a need for you two to spend time together.
Be honest: Just because you want them to learn the same thing, right? Being honest with your child improves the trust factor.
Remind them the values: Children tend to adapt the moral values taught to them in their early days but forget them with the passage of time. Keep reminding them the values they need to remember.
Learn to say NO: Even though children can throw enormous tantrums or be extremely cute to convince you into doing things for them, you have to learn to say no to things which you think are not appropriate for them. However, make sure you are not being biased.
Confidence building: Tell your kids to notice the color of the eyes of the person they talk to, which would enable the kids to develop confidence while talking to strangers.
Treating equally and uniquely: Both your children are equally important and treating them the same way just wouldn’t work. Each individual is different and treating them uniquely is the solution to the problem you have been facing while managing your children.
Positive reinforcement: While reading bedtime stories, ask your child which character he found good in the story, what situation did he find. Teaching the values of right and wrong in the early stages of life is very essential.
Make memories: Finally, don’t let your child’s childhood memories be a black and white movie. Let it be a rollercoaster of emotions with lots and lots of moments of you and your child.
Well if not perfect, you can be a better parent now for your child now.
Tips To Make Your Child A Successful Leader
Anirud05 Aug 201610
Every parent wants their child to be great in his/her life and would have always wondered what one should do to help them become so.
Here are 7 tips which could help you groom your child to become a successful leader in life.
1. Let them take risks: Letting children take risks would help them learn how to take a fall and experience failure. This will enhance their brain’s development and critical decision making.
2. Infrequent assistance: Parents come to the rescue of child’s problems too soon. If a child is having a problem and you think they can deal with it without your assistance, let them deal with it. See how your child acts to the situation and provide him/her feedback accordingly.
3. Appreciate, but not too much: Too much appreciation could lead to your child realizing that it is only his parents who appreciate him/her and others don’t, this in turn could lead to your child exaggerating and lying for appreciation.
4. Praise, but don’t reward: Praising your child when he does a good job will create essential motivation and unconditional love for you, because you condition your child to work for emotional satisfaction and not materialistic gains.
5. Share your childhood memories: The children could learn from the mistakes you made as a child, and if that situation should ever arise, they would be able to tackle it easily.
6. Intelligence-maturity relationship: Parents often confuse intelligence with maturity. Your child being good in studies doesn’t mean he is all grown up and mature, he still needs you and your guidance.
7. Do what you say: ‘Practice what you preach’ is the mantra, if you want your child to learn good habits.