Should Parents Punish Their Children For Every Mistake?

Judging someone for a mistake is wrong. Anyone in the world can make mistakes, even parents themselves make mistakes sometimes. Nobody in this world is perfect as there is no approved definition of perfectionism. Most parents give punishment or scold their children if they do any mistakes in a given task or life. This only makes children learn to hide their mistakes from their parents and not to learn how to correct them. Because of this children stop talking their hearts out in front of their parents and this causes several problems such as depression, a complication in a parent-children relationship, negative thinking development, and self-hate.

Instead of scolding, parents should help their children to correct their mistakes so they don't make the same mistake again. Parents should discuss everything with their children so that children can also discuss everything freely. Aggressiveness, anger, scolding can separate children from their parents. At a growing age, the brain of the children starts developing as they discover many new things and facts about life and they get a clear definition between reality and fantasy. At this growing age making mistakes, hiding them from their parents, not sharing their feelings is common. The parents should notice their children and learn to be kind, expressive and most importantly parents should always give their children a reminder that they love them and they are with them no matter what happens. Parents should be supportive and they should believe their children.

Scolding leads to depression and depression leads to negative thoughts, self-hate, anxiety, and other physical and mental problems. Many parents wonder why their children are looking sad and depressed. Wondering is not going to help them. Parents should put their hands on their child's shoulders and talk to them. They should make their children believe that they are with them and children can talk to them instead of scolding them so that they can have mental peace. Children can feel secure that they have a shoulder to lean on. Instead of scolding parents should calmly and softly talk to them so children can understand their mistakes and if ever they make any mistake they can reveal it in front of their parents.

By: Radhika Jaswal
Holy Child Senior Secondary